This article discusses about the pros and cons of marrying a
working women over a non working women. Well, I found the article completely
biased. I did go through the comments, I found most of them biased as well. Girls
screaming, yeah Chetan... You are absolutely right , mentality of guys in India definitely needs to
change. Guys screaming, what the crap Chetan is trying to tell us? Does not a
girl's father look only for a groom who is earning a handsome salary? So, why
shouldn't a guy who is earning a good amount of money and is from a well to do
family would have the desire to marry a non-working woman?
Well, I am not sure where exactly my opinion falls..Whether it is biased or neutral? I leave it up to you to decide.
Let us analyze the case where a guy marries a working lady who does not know to cook.
He could be benefitted with following scenarios.
Well, I am not sure where exactly my opinion falls..Whether it is biased or neutral? I leave it up to you to decide.
Let us analyze the case where a guy marries a working lady who does not know to cook.
He could be benefitted with following scenarios.
a) His wife would definitely be able to understand his work pressure and relate to his official problems better than a housewife.
b) She
would help him strengthening the family financial infrastructure.
c) The
most important benefit, she will be a confident lady who would be able to take
the right decisions on her own and this quality she in turn is going to transfer
to her children.
If you have gone through the above article of Chetan Bhagat,
you would feel that, I am almost sounding like him. Well, I do agree I am. Let
us not discuss the limitations of a guy marrying a working lady who does not
know to cook.
Now, coming to the other scenario where a guy marries a non-working lady.
He could be benefited with following scenarios.
Now, coming to the other scenario where a guy marries a non-working lady.
He could be benefited with following scenarios.
a ) He could get three different kind of curries on his dinner table instead of getting only one.
b) His
house would be much cleaner.
c) She
would be devoting almost her entire time on her children and family.
I can’t think of any other benefit here. If you can please
add it. Again, let us not discuss the limitations of a guy marrying a
non-working lady.
Now, let us discuss the scenario where a guy marries a working lady who also knows to cook.
He could be benefitted with following scenarios.
a) His wife should be able to understand his office politics better when compared to a house wife.
Let us go into a little depth here. A house wife would be waiting whole day for her husband(who had a very tiresome day in his office today) to come back home. Once he comes back, she would be expecting at least some kind of attention for her from him. He comes home and says, khana lagao, badi bhookh lagi hai and after having the dinner goes to sleep. Chances are there that he forgets to complement her for providing him such a nice food, in other words he forgets to say “khana achha tha”. Don’t you think, someday all these things together are going to agitate her and she would start complaining about her own life? Once she starts feeling that, you can guess where exactly will their life end. She would be losing interest in her own life. Basically, until you yourself are happy and satisfied with your own life, you can’t keep others associated with your life happy.
Where as a working lady would never have such a strong sentiments towards these minute details. Ideally, she should be able to understand that her husband had a tiresome day today and hence was not able to devote even 10 minutes for her. I would like to emphasize here that, whenever a husband gets even an half an hour off from his busy schedule, he should try to devote it to his wife. This effort should always be there. You never know, this small effort could be the reason for his working wife to make her feel that “yeah, we both are still together”.
Well, a tip for committed guys, irrespective of your tiresome day, you should never forget to complement your wife for providing you such a tasty food.
b) His wife will be transferring her cooking skills as well to their daughter along with her confidence and independence.
Well, children do learn from the things going on around them. If they see, their Mom not cooking for them, they in turn are not going to cook for their family as well which in future is going to increase your monthly family budget. You will find out that a vast amount of your salary is being spent on restaurant bills.
And, last but not the least, adjustment does matter. A husband should always be ready to help his wife in kitchen, if required. A wife should always know to cook either she is working or not working. Also, a working lady should be able to switch her roles. There might time come, where she would only be required to play the role of a mother or a daughter or a daughter in law. She should be able to cope up with such scenarios.
And , who the hell in this world likes a restaurant food? I would always prefer the food which my mother cooked for me over the restaurant food. So, ladies learn to cook at least for yourself. Why, so much fuss over it? I agree, it requires extra efforts from your side as you need to balance both your office stuff and kitchen as well. But then, this effort in turn results into an attractive goody pack which do contain happiness and satisfaction of your family…Think about itJ
Now, let us discuss the scenario where a guy marries a working lady who also knows to cook.
He could be benefitted with following scenarios.
a) His wife should be able to understand his office politics better when compared to a house wife.
Let us go into a little depth here. A house wife would be waiting whole day for her husband(who had a very tiresome day in his office today) to come back home. Once he comes back, she would be expecting at least some kind of attention for her from him. He comes home and says, khana lagao, badi bhookh lagi hai and after having the dinner goes to sleep. Chances are there that he forgets to complement her for providing him such a nice food, in other words he forgets to say “khana achha tha”. Don’t you think, someday all these things together are going to agitate her and she would start complaining about her own life? Once she starts feeling that, you can guess where exactly will their life end. She would be losing interest in her own life. Basically, until you yourself are happy and satisfied with your own life, you can’t keep others associated with your life happy.
Where as a working lady would never have such a strong sentiments towards these minute details. Ideally, she should be able to understand that her husband had a tiresome day today and hence was not able to devote even 10 minutes for her. I would like to emphasize here that, whenever a husband gets even an half an hour off from his busy schedule, he should try to devote it to his wife. This effort should always be there. You never know, this small effort could be the reason for his working wife to make her feel that “yeah, we both are still together”.
Well, a tip for committed guys, irrespective of your tiresome day, you should never forget to complement your wife for providing you such a tasty food.
b) His wife will be transferring her cooking skills as well to their daughter along with her confidence and independence.
Well, children do learn from the things going on around them. If they see, their Mom not cooking for them, they in turn are not going to cook for their family as well which in future is going to increase your monthly family budget. You will find out that a vast amount of your salary is being spent on restaurant bills.
And, last but not the least, adjustment does matter. A husband should always be ready to help his wife in kitchen, if required. A wife should always know to cook either she is working or not working. Also, a working lady should be able to switch her roles. There might time come, where she would only be required to play the role of a mother or a daughter or a daughter in law. She should be able to cope up with such scenarios.
And , who the hell in this world likes a restaurant food? I would always prefer the food which my mother cooked for me over the restaurant food. So, ladies learn to cook at least for yourself. Why, so much fuss over it? I agree, it requires extra efforts from your side as you need to balance both your office stuff and kitchen as well. But then, this effort in turn results into an attractive goody pack which do contain happiness and satisfaction of your family…Think about itJ
